I love to talk about my son. He is, arguably, my favourite topic of conversation. I love to chat about all of his words (and he has a lot of words guys. That kid stops chatting only long enough to eat, sleep and listen to a story), how he’s starting to walk, and that I know that The Husband and I are so incredibly blessed to have such an amazing little person in our lives.
I love to take pictures of my son. I love to capture his perfect little moments, trapping them on (digital) film for as long as they’ll keep. I love to send those photos (usually via email and text, though I have been known to send them by post) to friends and family and TLM-brag.
What I do not love – and this isn’t a judgement on anyone else – is sharing him via social media. I will yammer in tweets, discuss children’s book and toys on Instagram, and tell you stories on blogs, but my son’s cherubic face doesn’t belong on the internet.
This isn’t always a popular decision. We have a few camps in our lives, but only two are important here: the people who follow me on Twitter and (used to follow me on) Facebook who would love to see photographic evidence supporting my claim of having had a child, and the people (almost exclusively my family, as Husband’s has virtually no online presence beyond email) who would love to TLM-brag on their own Twitter, Facebook and Instagram accounts.
I get it. I get it and I feel like an asshole asking people to remove TLM photos from their feeds, and to not post photos at all. I love my son (more than you do, I assure you) and I want to share my immeasurable pride in him with the whole world.
But I don’t. I didn’t when I was pregnant (nary a belly update made it onto my Facebook account, when I had a social Facebook account), and I don’t now. Husband and I have chosen this route, in an incredibly open and public world, because TLM is too young to have a choice. We will continue to keep him private (and safe) and offline until he can choose how he would like to build his online life, if he chooses to build one at all.
I’m a pretty open book. I’ll talk with you about almost anything you want to talk about, sometimes to the point of over-sharing. I’m also a very private person. My life is precious and the people in it sacred to me.
I think this post is exclusively a yammer-to-myself piece, but I also feel it’s important. You can post pictures and stories of your life and all of the people in it to your heart’s content and I will love you for it. I think it’s awesome and I love to see your updates. Mine are just reserved for email (where, if you have ever received an email from me, you know I get all kinds of share-y and picture-overload-y).
Do you share your family on social media? Have you made the decision not to? TALK TO ME ABOUT THIS! What are your feelings, either way?